It has to be more than perfect OR ELSE
Writing about a melancholic has been the toughest decision I have had to make. Partly because one gave birth to me, on the other hand because this article might not reach their expectations simply because to them it has to be more than perfect.
But I will try, they are the wonder of my world; other than most cholerics. When I want something done to perfect, I always assign a task to a melancholic. Attention to detail; now thats in their DNA
I have learnt to be responsible, I get chores done, I cook and try new recipes, I do adequate research, I go an extra mile because a melancholic brought me up and when she would find any surface to be dusty I would be in trouble ( I love you mam)
In contrast, I have been close to friends who live to please others. I have that trait too except not at all times, and pleasing my parents and friends has been part of me.. This has its strengths and weaknesses.
I spent my last weekend with my younger sister and cousin and thanks to God in the midst of our talks and laughs, my cousin started talking about his siblings and he explained one of his sister's as a phlegmatic in a way that i did not even know myself.. He talked of her as one who is always at peace with everyone, avoids conflict at all costs and is terrified of doing anything wrong especially if it would hurt others. But if you get hurt she is still at peace with you and will apologise and move on. I noted her weakness as are most phlegmatics, to lack a "passion" for anything and mostly need others to motivate them to do something. On the other hand they are hurt easily as most times people make decisions for them and these people are mostly "cholerics" and " melancholics" who make those decisions for them
The melancholic and the phlegmatic are both introverts except melancholics though they keep to themselves, they can never accept anything that does not meet their standards. Well the Phlegmatic would readily go with the flow. Phlegmatics get hurt easily too, they are delicate and one needs to be patient and find the correct approach when dealing with them. They are nice people and have many friends as they rarely hurt them.
Like I said in my earlier post, one can have a blend of two or even three personalities, with one being the most dominant of the others.
Understanding one's personality and that of others is a way of realizing that no human being is perfect and accepting one as they are means you accept that, the way they are wired is a definition of God's perfectionism. We are fearfully and wonderfully made so to speak. If I understood that people are wired differently in this world, there are alot of things I would have done better. Mostly as humans we expect people to think the way we do, react as we do. This is why friendships fail, relationships die, job interviews are missed and families broken.
Yesterday, a programme was airing and it illustrated how ex-convicts are stigmatized. Pauline, just from serving her prison sentence wanted a fresh start and so the first thing was to reunite with her children and apply for a job. During her job interview she was asked what she has been doing for the past five years since her CV did not indicate anything done from 2010. Pauline said that she was in prison while stammering after which she paused looking nervously at the panel of interviewers. The next words she uttered were "its not what you think" and as the panelists exchanged doubtful looks, the interview ended with the uncertain "we will call you" cliches. I was partly disappointed in Pauline and partly in the panel. I saw Pauline as a choleric/phlegmatic; perhaps she could have said "I served a five year sentence because of this and that, and during my term in prison I went through rehabilitation where I learnt why I went wrong and applied to court for a shorter sentence including community service under supervision. I was also able to successfully get clearance from the police after my community service and obtained a certificate of good conduct which I have attached to my curriculum vitae which i request for your consideration. I have made mistakes in my life but I have worked to improve progressively as I will demonstrate to you in any task I am given when I am accepted in this company" This would have given Pauline a 70% chance of being hired. The panelists were judgemental, and it is not their fault, Pauline opened the door to judgement. But if I was a panelist, I would have delve into understanding this person (she could be an asset) maybe ask why she went to prison, she might have been an innocent person but found guilty by the court, or ask her why they should consider an ex-convict. (All panelists would be harsh, they want the perfect employee)
I learnt that, we are all human and in reaching self-awareness, we need to understand our personalities and that of others. Even just a little bit.
Now that we have learnt our different personalities, there are things we need to change about ourselves, Hmm, I wonder how! Find out next
But I will try, they are the wonder of my world; other than most cholerics. When I want something done to perfect, I always assign a task to a melancholic. Attention to detail; now thats in their DNA
I have learnt to be responsible, I get chores done, I cook and try new recipes, I do adequate research, I go an extra mile because a melancholic brought me up and when she would find any surface to be dusty I would be in trouble ( I love you mam)
In contrast, I have been close to friends who live to please others. I have that trait too except not at all times, and pleasing my parents and friends has been part of me.. This has its strengths and weaknesses.
I spent my last weekend with my younger sister and cousin and thanks to God in the midst of our talks and laughs, my cousin started talking about his siblings and he explained one of his sister's as a phlegmatic in a way that i did not even know myself.. He talked of her as one who is always at peace with everyone, avoids conflict at all costs and is terrified of doing anything wrong especially if it would hurt others. But if you get hurt she is still at peace with you and will apologise and move on. I noted her weakness as are most phlegmatics, to lack a "passion" for anything and mostly need others to motivate them to do something. On the other hand they are hurt easily as most times people make decisions for them and these people are mostly "cholerics" and " melancholics" who make those decisions for them
The melancholic and the phlegmatic are both introverts except melancholics though they keep to themselves, they can never accept anything that does not meet their standards. Well the Phlegmatic would readily go with the flow. Phlegmatics get hurt easily too, they are delicate and one needs to be patient and find the correct approach when dealing with them. They are nice people and have many friends as they rarely hurt them.
Like I said in my earlier post, one can have a blend of two or even three personalities, with one being the most dominant of the others.
Understanding one's personality and that of others is a way of realizing that no human being is perfect and accepting one as they are means you accept that, the way they are wired is a definition of God's perfectionism. We are fearfully and wonderfully made so to speak. If I understood that people are wired differently in this world, there are alot of things I would have done better. Mostly as humans we expect people to think the way we do, react as we do. This is why friendships fail, relationships die, job interviews are missed and families broken.
Yesterday, a programme was airing and it illustrated how ex-convicts are stigmatized. Pauline, just from serving her prison sentence wanted a fresh start and so the first thing was to reunite with her children and apply for a job. During her job interview she was asked what she has been doing for the past five years since her CV did not indicate anything done from 2010. Pauline said that she was in prison while stammering after which she paused looking nervously at the panel of interviewers. The next words she uttered were "its not what you think" and as the panelists exchanged doubtful looks, the interview ended with the uncertain "we will call you" cliches. I was partly disappointed in Pauline and partly in the panel. I saw Pauline as a choleric/phlegmatic; perhaps she could have said "I served a five year sentence because of this and that, and during my term in prison I went through rehabilitation where I learnt why I went wrong and applied to court for a shorter sentence including community service under supervision. I was also able to successfully get clearance from the police after my community service and obtained a certificate of good conduct which I have attached to my curriculum vitae which i request for your consideration. I have made mistakes in my life but I have worked to improve progressively as I will demonstrate to you in any task I am given when I am accepted in this company" This would have given Pauline a 70% chance of being hired. The panelists were judgemental, and it is not their fault, Pauline opened the door to judgement. But if I was a panelist, I would have delve into understanding this person (she could be an asset) maybe ask why she went to prison, she might have been an innocent person but found guilty by the court, or ask her why they should consider an ex-convict. (All panelists would be harsh, they want the perfect employee)
I learnt that, we are all human and in reaching self-awareness, we need to understand our personalities and that of others. Even just a little bit.
Now that we have learnt our different personalities, there are things we need to change about ourselves, Hmm, I wonder how! Find out next
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